How to cope with therapy at home … aka my therapy space is my living room.
How to cope with therapy at home.
My therapy space is my living room.
For the past six months I’ve been having weekly therapy – with more than a few two week breaks, in my living room. Why? Because it’s utterly impossible to get to my therapists’s office at the moment in time. It would require many ramps, crutches, a wheelchair equipped taxi, a helping hand, muscle power I don’t have, and the mental stability to do it all again after baring my soul for an hour and a half.
You could argue that phone consult must surely be better, or over Skype etc. and yes for some that’s a pretty decent option. However, we tried those, and the most important reason why they had to stop is that I’ve lost some of my hearing. The times we tried phone therapy, I wasn’t actually doing my therapy – just saying ‘what’ every other minute or so.
Having therapy in my living room, a space where I spend most of my days, is really tough. I don’t really leave the house unless it’s to go to the doctors, or occasionally make a break for freedom to the shops – a person has to keep their sweet stash full for those ‘bad days’. So, I’m left to run literally stew in my own metaphorical therapy juices. It took my quite some time to figure out how to cope with therapy at home. However, since I’ve been doing this for six months, and I’ve covered a number of topics, I had to come up with a way to cope with therapy at home, stewing in my own metaphorical therapy juices.
How to cope with therapy at home.
Make sure therapy happens every week at the same day, and time.
This is something that comes naturally to people in an office setting, however it’s even more important if you’re having therapy in your home. By making sure you have a routine within therapy, it easier to mentally set aside that part of your day for therapy. Again, if something people tend to do when they have therapy in an office, however by ensuring that you have a regular therapy appointment it helps to do my next point.
Develop a routine.
Whether it’s your cloths, your drinks, or even your hair, try to create a therapy ‘outfit’ or routine that you only do when it’s time for therapy. This will help to distance yourself from the therapy after it has happened.
For example I have type of clothes that are my ‘therapy’ clothes – somewhat comfy, mostly covered up, easy to move in, and I have a blanket that’s my ‘therapy blanket’ (good old temperature fluctuations).
Since I’m self-employed, I’m used to creating a divide between my home and my work life, its the same with therapy. It might sound silly, but changing out of the clothes, and putting the blankets away to me signify therapy is over. I can leave all that I covered with my blanket, and with those close until next week when I need to bring them out again.
Now, it’s not a perfect system. Sometimes I wear those close in my day-to-day life, and sometimes the blankets get muddled up, that I tried to keep the same routine. That’s the important bit.
This is all interwoven with the idea of a routine, treat yourself after therapy. Whether that’s through self-care, chocolate, what about ice cream. Let yourself have that time to process, then try to carry on with your day. If you disrupt the rest of your routine, you’ll find it harder to deal with everything else you need to accomplish that day.
These points might sound like a load of bull, and that’s probably because this is what I’ve had to do to cope with therapy at home, and keep myself stable in my own living room. I have a lot of memories here, good and bad, and it has forced me to come up with a way to deal with them.
Work at a pace that suits you.
My therapist is very good at letting me lead the sessions. We don’t go into anything I don’t want to go into that day, because he knows I have to sit with afterwards. My situation is also, hopefully, temporary. I don’t envision myself six months down the line still doing therapy in my living room.
If you’re in a similar situation attempting to cope with therapy at home, don’t try to tackle things that you know will upset you, or cause you distress, especially if the reason why you’re having therapy your home is due to chronic illness (the body and the mind are fickle when it comes to stress). Of course, sometimes these things just come up, and have to be dealt with, so go at a pace that suits you. If you can hold off delving into them at home, it’s for the better. I’ve come to realise there a very good reason I felt better when I got home after therapy, it’s because I put it out there in his office, and I left it there. When at home, it’s harder to do that.
These are just some ramblings that might help you or they might not. But, if you’ve found they’ve helped in any way, please let me know. If there’s anything you do to help with doing therapy at home, drop me a comment down below.