Respect our boundaries, pay our fees. Don’t ask us to watch you wank for free.
My time is not free. A sentiment all freelancers, bloggers, and self-employed people feel deeply. It’s deeply ingrained that time is money, and when you live by that saying it’s really hard to switch off.As such, you’d expect that those in a similar position to yourself - a freelancer, self-employed person, or sex blogger, would understand that whilst you should…
We keep missing each other.
Our libidos don't often match up. Sometimes he's horny, and I'm not in the mood, or my body is protesting - the joys of chronic illness. Sometimes I'm horny, and he's exhausted, busy, or isn't in the right headspace.
Why are Tulipán’s consent condoms a bad idea?
Tulipán has created a ‘consent condom’. Unsurprisingly, it is an inaccessible design that won’t reduce sexual assault or increase condom use. It is ableist, and on the whole a bad idea.
Liberator Rockabilly Doggy Riser [Sex Aid Review]
The lovely humans over at Bedroom Adventures gave me the Liberator Rockabilly Doggy Riser to review, and trust me when I say this one was tested very thoroughly!
Designed for ‘the disabled’.
I’ve had an itch in the back of my mind for the past few months, and today it developed into a full blown scratch. The reason? I received an email a couple of months ago, and I’ve been unable to reply. I’ve been exhausted the past few months, and my tolerance for ‘teaching others about disability’ is low. So, here’s…
Elust 116 | Sex Bloggers are Awesome!
Photo courtesy of A Dissolute Life Means Welcome to Elust 116– The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #117? Start with the rules, come back April…
Relearning how to masturbate
Just before falling from the precipice of orgasm there’s a single minded focus that comes from the build up of pleasure that is both delightful, and frantic. The holding of breath, tensing of muscles, and urgency of movement is because your body takes over, whilst the mind shuts down. The pleasure demands to be fulfilled through release.
My uterus controls my life, but my medication makes the doctors listen.
My uterus owns me. It has free rein over my body without the regulatory body of doctor implanted hormones. Though, that’s not for the lack of trying. During the run up to my period I get severe PMS, to the point where my anxiety is up, and I'm forever paranoid, and worried about my partner and myself leaving the house.…
Under the thumb of the NHS.
The NHS controls my life. It's a fact. Without my pill regime, I would not be functional, and without the many appointments I attend I would not be allowed the pills regime. I also rely on the appointments to see if there's any chance of figuring out what the hell is going on with my ever temperamental body. Spoiler, usually…
Keep Calm, and Carry On
Sometimes, I feel rather British. Granted, this feeling is intensified as I've just watched four episodes of The Crown, but part of me feels like a stiff upper lip is needed to get through life. It's how I've dealt with most things, but apparently that's called compartmentalisation, and isn't healthy for you. Alongside all my usual health concerns, slight hesitancy…
Elust 114 | Sex Bloggers Are Awesome
The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you're looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it'll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #115? Start with the rules, come back February1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!
Caring too much about the wrong thing.
I give too many fucks. I've known that I give too many fucks for some time, but a conversation with my partner at 2am this morning really highlighted that fact when every worry I had was met with 'that's because you care too much'. Caring is great, in fact the world would be a better place if people cared even a…
2018 Roundup
2018 was my first proper year of blogging. Whilst this blog did start during the latter half of 2016, a lot of things happened that took my attention away during 2017, so 2018 was the year I really got into it. And it's show. I've published 80 blog posts this year (18 last year), and more than doubled the amount…
My Sex Blogging Resolutions!
Hello! I've not disappeared! Attempting to work, balance body, the holidays, earning money, and moving house took a toll, and I let blogging go a tad, but things are starting to settle down, so I'm back! And just in time for the start of 2019, speaking of which. New Year's resolutions about eating heathy, and drinking less are all well…
Elust 113 | Sex Bloggers are Awesome!
Photo courtesy of Quinn Rhodes Welcome to Elust 113 The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #114? Start with the rules, come back January 1st to…
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