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    Breaking Down BDSM, Part 1

    Let's clear something up, BDSM and fetish aren't as scary as some people think. The media loves to sensationalise everything nowadays, and unfortunately BDSM isn’t exempt from that.  I’m going to break down BDSM, and simplify it so you can see that it’s pretty straightforward. For context, I have been practicing BDSM for quite some time - nearly 7 years…

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    My Fetlife Inbox, Part 3

    My Fetlife Inbox, Part 3 One day I will finish going through my inbox and rounding up all the messages I receive, but that day might be when I’m old and grey. This is Part 3 of the series My FetLife Inbox. If you’re unsure of the best way to read these posts, or what these posts are all about…

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    Being a Professional Dominatrix with a Disability

    I am an pretty darn good Dominatrix.  It doesn’t matter whether I’m playing for fun with play partners, paid professional work in a real time scenario, or online sessions with clients – I’m good. I also happen to be disabled. Now, this doesn’t detract from my abilities, my kink, nor the way I conduct my sessions – whether they’re online or in…

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    BDSM 101

    BDSM 101 A whip here, a tickle there, and a needle somewhere delicate … Everyone has limits. Everyone. Even ‘no limits’ subs that approach me begging to whip them, whether they realise it or not have limits – I’m betting they don’t want me to chop off a vital limb, or perform open heart surgery on them. Limits aren’t a bad…

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    My Fetlife Inbox, Part 2

    My Fetlife Inbox, Part 2 It’s a new year, this means men everywhere (and some women, though I get more messages from men) have decided to fulfill their New Year’s Resolution of being stupid on the internet. Don’t believe? Or want to see for yourself? Here’s the evidence … Confused? Read FetLife Top Ten Part 1. As always, this post is best…

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    My FetLife Inbox, Part 1

    My FetLife Inbox, Part 1 FetLife, the Facebook of kinksters. Over the years I’ve received a number of eloquent, well structured, and positively delightful messages from members of FetLife. (Note: that last sentence was full of sarcasm.) I’ve even taken to reading them out online when I stream, set to the tune of Aria Da Capo. However, sometimes reading them out doesn’t convey…

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