2020, the year I stop masturbating.
I've had a bit of a revelation. So, let’s talk about my relationship with masturbation. I like orgasms. I really like them. However, because my body is complicated having an orgasm isn’t straightforward. Orgasms cause pain, exhaustion, and occasionally these effects that last for weeks. I really wish I was joking, but I’m not. Orgasming can truly fuck me up,…
15 Practical Blow Job Tips for TMD, Part 2
Part 1 of the blow job tips and jaw pain was one of those posts that blew up unexpectedly, and since I’m still giving blow jobs, and my jaw is still a right bastard I have even more tips for you! Some are new, and some are an extension of the tips from the first part. Like last time, a…
I’m scared to masturbate.
First off, whilst there was a period of body enforced orgasm denial, I'm happy to report it's at an end! Since my last post, my body cooperated enough to have sex, and 2 blissful orgasms. Unsurprisingly, I also spent the rest of the day recovering. Now, let's dive into the apparent mental orgasm denial I've gotten myself into.Here's the thing,…
I’m horny, but my body won’t let me masturbate.
“I want to climb him like a tree.” I’ve heard that expression so often, but I am feeling it today. I want to climb my partner, kiss him, touch him, explore his skin. I’m worried that if I don’t grope him, or do something to sate the arousal, I might combust from the sheer intensity of it.
Relearning how to masturbate
Just before falling from the precipice of orgasm there’s a single minded focus that comes from the build up of pleasure that is both delightful, and frantic. The holding of breath, tensing of muscles, and urgency of movement is because your body takes over, whilst the mind shuts down. The pleasure demands to be fulfilled through release.
Moving House to Improve My Sex Life! [Video Transcript]
In approximately less than a month, I will be in a new place which is absolutely terrifying - bone-chillingly terrifying. But, exciting, very exciting. There's a lot to do in terms of buying and packing everything else, but absolutely terrifying. However, the thing I am most excited about is that my sex life is going to improve. I know this,…
I told my physiotherapist I wanted to have sex. [Video Transcript]
Hi. I'm Eve, and I told my physiotherapist that I wanted to have physiotherapy to improve my sex life. So, it's slightly click bait, but I did have physiotherapy this week. I've had two sessions now, with an NHS physiotherapist. I had a few with a prior physiotherapist, but they were odd and too intrusive, and very judgy. You find…
Figuring out oral sex.
Up until last year, I was not a fan of receiving oral sex. I was (and still am) a huge fan of giving oral sex, but not receiving it. Why? People either had a habit of making me feel bad for the look of my vulva (unsurprisingly, that was Douche), or they were just really really bad at it, and…
Hearing loss in the bedroom
Something you may or may not know - I have hearing loss. As always with me, no one is sure why, and I'm still getting it investigated. I first noticed it late last year when everything else kicked off, and it seems to be accompanied by tinnitus, fluctuating sound independent of the hearing loss, vertigo and balance issues. Whilst I…
How do you make sex toys accessible? 9 ways to make sex toys accessible, or at least get you thinking.
How do you make sex toys accessible? 9 ways to make sex toys accessible, or at least get you thinking. I’ve had a number of conversations about how to make sex toys accessible with various people, from bloggers, to industry folks, and to my partner. The short story, there’s no one way to make every single sex toy on the market…
My sexual needs, wants, and desires are secondary.
My sexual needs, wants, and desires are secondary. Disability and sexuality … according to the medical system. Recently I wrote a piece about Eroticon, and how it reawaken my sexuality. This piece is in someways an accompaniment to that, this piece is how my sexuality got pummelled, pulverised, and ultimately put away. Then I saw a bunch of tweets today…
Accessible Lingerie
Accessible Lingerie (This post is brought to you by being by myself for for the first time in over a year, and trying – and failing to put lingerie on for work.) I love lingerie, I wear it for work, pleasure, and play. I wear it for myself, for customers, and my partner. But at the moment I can’t wear…
Eroticon Talk on Sex Work and Disability | Part 3
“The aim of the talk was to give an inside view of what it’s like working within the adult industry whilst at the same time having a physical disability. Also to draw parallels between disability stigma, and sex work stigma – speaking personally as someone with a finger in each pie, sex work and disability are very similar in how…
Eroticon Talk on Sex Work and Disability | Part 2
“The aim of the talk was to give an inside view of what it’s like working within the adult industry whilst at the same time having a physical disability. Also to draw parallels between disability stigma, and sex work stigma – speaking personally as someone with a finger in each pie, sex work and disability are very similar in how…
Eroticon Talk on Sex Work and Disability | Part 1
Sex Work and Disability “The aim of the talk was to give an inside view of what it’s like working within the adult industry whilst at the same time having a physical disability. Also to draw parallels between disability stigma, and sex work stigma – speaking personally as someone with a finger in each pie, sex work and disability are…
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