2020, the year I stop masturbating.
I've had a bit of a revelation. So, let’s talk about my relationship with masturbation. I like orgasms. I really like them. However, because my body is complicated having an orgasm isn’t straightforward. Orgasms cause pain, exhaustion, and occasionally these effects that last for weeks. I really wish I was joking, but I’m not. Orgasming can truly fuck me up,…
Why are Tulipán’s consent condoms a bad idea?
Tulipán has created a ‘consent condom’. Unsurprisingly, it is an inaccessible design that won’t reduce sexual assault or increase condom use. It is ableist, and on the whole a bad idea.
Caring too much about the wrong thing.
I give too many fucks. I've known that I give too many fucks for some time, but a conversation with my partner at 2am this morning really highlighted that fact when every worry I had was met with 'that's because you care too much'. Caring is great, in fact the world would be a better place if people cared even a…
“Good for Disabled People”
“Good for Disabled People” This gets a whole section, and a soapbox. This section was originally within my review of the Rocks Off Ruby Glow toy, however as soon as it reached 800 words I knew I had to split it all up. 2,000 words is far too much to easily read in one sitting. So, I know the Ruby…
Accessible Lingerie
Accessible Lingerie (This post is brought to you by being by myself for for the first time in over a year, and trying – and failing to put lingerie on for work.) I love lingerie, I wear it for work, pleasure, and play. I wear it for myself, for customers, and my partner. But at the moment I can’t wear…
Eroticon Talk on Sex Work and Disability | Part 3
“The aim of the talk was to give an inside view of what it’s like working within the adult industry whilst at the same time having a physical disability. Also to draw parallels between disability stigma, and sex work stigma – speaking personally as someone with a finger in each pie, sex work and disability are very similar in how…
Eroticon Talk on Sex Work and Disability | Part 2
“The aim of the talk was to give an inside view of what it’s like working within the adult industry whilst at the same time having a physical disability. Also to draw parallels between disability stigma, and sex work stigma – speaking personally as someone with a finger in each pie, sex work and disability are very similar in how…
Eroticon Talk on Sex Work and Disability | Part 1
Sex Work and Disability “The aim of the talk was to give an inside view of what it’s like working within the adult industry whilst at the same time having a physical disability. Also to draw parallels between disability stigma, and sex work stigma – speaking personally as someone with a finger in each pie, sex work and disability are…
Body positivity when living with multiple chronic illnesses.
Body positivity when living with multiple chronic illnesses. I’m going to start off by saying that body positivity doesn’t come easy. Not that I think it comes easy to anyone, but it’s really easy to hate your body when it doesn’t do what you want it to do on a near constant basis. It’s also really easy to gain…
Being a Professional Dominatrix with a Disability
I am an pretty darn good Dominatrix. It doesn’t matter whether I’m playing for fun with play partners, paid professional work in a real time scenario, or online sessions with clients – I’m good. I also happen to be disabled. Now, this doesn’t detract from my abilities, my kink, nor the way I conduct my sessions – whether they’re online or in…
5 Ways to Feel Attractive During a Symptom Flare
Aka, “I’m experimenting with ways to make myself feel moderately human again.” I feel rotten. I don’t feel attractive, and I definitely don’t feel sexy. Last night, I told that to my partner. He’s a good egg. He reassured me I’m still attractive, and had my hips been willing he would have definitely had sex with me. But, my brain isn’t quite…
Let’s Talk Sex and Disability
Let’s Talk Sex and Disability What I want to do, and what my disability allows me to do are two very different things. Let’s talk sex and disability. When you put me down on paper there’s a million and one things I physically can’t do – my body just doesn’t function like the stereotypical ‘normal’. Like I mentioned in my last post, it’s…
Accessibility
